Wherein I Reminisce About Basketball And Baby Naming

20 years ago on a day not unlike today, The Woodchuck (well of course he wasn’t the Woodchuck back then, he was still just “Honey””) and I had still not selected a first name for the child were expecting.

We knew that his first name would not be Simon (family tradition be damned). The problem was that we needed a name that had flow ( I used to write poetry and The Woodchuck still had Tony Rock in his blood, so yes we needed flow), and were having trouble finding (OK agreeing) on  anything that would flow into Simon.

Looking back I can’t think of why we  agonized so much over a name. I mean , really I gave my oldest a majestic name “Rahsheen” what do people call him? Rah. What’s the point? Oh and did I mention that after all that agonizing, our little one once asked us -” why didn’t you give me a normal name, like Jonathan?”

So anyway, back to 20 years ago – Final Four (yes I know it’s not really called that once they get to the final two, I am obviously a horrible sports fan) is on (this is back when there was  one TV in the house and everyone watched what was on said TV), Michigan , North Carolina. I’m rooting for Michigan  (I don’t remember why, no). We’re discussing names still, Juwan – No. Chris? No. Jalen Rose – I had a teacher with the last name Rose when I was in Elementary School – wait – Jalen Simon – now that flows.

The Fab Five didn’t win that night (i think it was the night of the time out incident, I also think I mighta got teary eyed), but strangely enough – I don’t remember the names of any of the North Carolina players. Maybe the Woodchuck does.

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Where Are All My Friends? The Polarizing Force of Radio,Television And Blogs

Years ago I had a lot of friends, and according to Facebook, I still do (but I don’t believe that boshwah because I know better).  I was first introduced to the negative after effects of talk radio by Tom, a coworker who believed that he was Axl Rose, (whole nother story that) and that racism was dead, and that black people (except for me of course), were lazy welfare swindlers and a lot of other crap that I’ve since erased from my memory banks. Tom was a Rush Limbaugh listener, and what struck me about Tom was not the things he said, but the angry and loud way in which he said them. I cannot think of one single moment in a scary movie that can rival being stuck alone in an industrial sized building for 12 hours a day 3 days a week with a Limbaugh Lunatic. Thank God we could at least agree on Rock and Roll. That was almost 2 decades ago and things have gotten worse instead of better. Had I known then that our political affiliation would become the thing that defines us and determines the length and breadth of our friendships, I would have made the effort to only friend Democrats and Left leaning Independents (and yes that is laughable so go ahead chuckle).

I thought I had friends at the job I worked for 10 years. We did lunch, hugs, Christmas presents, and talked about our husbands, wives, kids, and money issues . But all the while, they were being groomed by talk radio too, or maybe it was Fox News, or maybe it’s already in your DNA? I dunno. Two years ago I happened on one of my “friends” in an elevator, I was so happy to see this friend that I rushed over to give them a hug – they actually physically cringed and shrank into the back of the elevator, the look on my friend’s face was priceless, and the moment is stamped in my consciousness like a bad dream that I just can’t shake. I didn’t know what I had done to create whatever animosity, dislike, or disdain that this person felt for me  – but when I saw some of their more recent Facebook  posts I got what some folks would call “a clue”.

Then there are my other besties who no longer call or respond to emails, or even interact with me in any way shape or form on the public forum we call Facebook.

They say that politics is polarizing America, but I don’t believe it not even for a second. We used to be able to agree to disagree and then go get drunk together. Heck we even used to (gasp) marry outside of our Party.  It’s all the angry (probably white, but sometimes not) men that’s really pulling us apart (did I say that out loud? Ok I went back and amended it) . So tell me, former friends of mine – if you have a roof over your head, a good job, food in your mouth, and the kids are alright- what are you so effing mad about? And why are you mad at me?

And one last question – you keep telling me you “want America back”, but since you also say that it’s not about the President being Black and it’s not about him not being Black enough, and since back assumes that there has been forward movement to some place that’s undesirable to you- then what or whom do you want your country back from?

And another question (sorry this one baffles me so much I gotta ask it twice)- what are you so mad about?

I sure wish you’d turn the radio off, stop reading blogs that offer affirmation rather than information, mute the TV and put some music on, it will calm your nerves.

My (Accidental) HandMade Life

Let’s get this straight – I am not a DESIGNER. I am simply an INTERPRETER of other people’s designs. Sure, sometimes I just make stuff up as I go along- but I wouldn’t call that designing, would you?

So anyways, last week I asked Anthony David if I could make him a fedora, and he said sure how about a gray one?

The model is cute but the hat, meh

So I ran up to Joann (cause I have about 99 skeins of wool and gray ain’t one) and picked up a skein of Patons in gray. I spent two nights crocheting a fedora and after I felted it…disaster…the brim was too short. My dear husband called it a chick hat. So I had a chick model it for me (my gorgeous niece Sydney) and while she rocked it like the super model she will someday be…I hated it.

I knew that I wanted something more but wasn’t sure what, and then one day, tired from a day of work but inspired nonetheless, I decided to try something. And here is the result:

The first in my Betty Davis eyes collection

 

When we first came to America, my sisters and I would stay up very late watching black & white movies. This hat reminds me of how glamorous  we women used to be – even with our skirts below our knees and wearing 3 to 4 layers of clothing in the bedroom we were SEXY.

So I guess you could say that I’m trying to bring glamorous and sexy back:)

Sorry  AD but maybe Algebra could wear the fedora instead?

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Keeping Hope Alive – Behind the White Noise and Shiny Objects

recessionAs you probably already know my recession started in late 2006 following a (in retrospect) bad decision on my part to accept a new position in another division of my company. I was let go and then I had to learn how to let go:

  • Of resentment
  •  Of anger
  • Of fear
  •  Of material things (like my house and my car)
  •  Of the past

 

Four years later, even though I have worked several decent paying gigs:

·         my bank account is light

·          if you ask a financial adviser they’ll tell you that my retirement plan is looking a lot like a job as greeter at Walmart

·          I don’t remember what an annual physical or mammogram is like because I belong to one of those (insert number in thousands or millions depending on your party affiliation here)  people with no health insurance

·         I do not possess a credit card or a high credit score

And you know what? I’m fine with all of that. Every day is a beautiful day, a blessing to be cherished. I appreciate what I have and what I can actually afford to buy [I bought my son a laptop and paid cash, I was so proud when I realized what I had done]

 

So, Where are YOUR Bootstraps?

 

And I’m telling you this because….

  1. I want you to know that no one is going to come and “fix” your personal economy. Once you get far enough away from a steady income and deep enough into debt, it’s a long road back
  2. I want you to realize that you can’t blame the government for your situation, then say the government is too big, and then blame the same government for your situation – yes I repeated myself, reading it makes as much sense as doing it does.
  3. I am slightly angered by corporate sponsored candidates who will tell you that if government stepped out of the way, companies would step in and take care of the “community”. Bullshit, is what I say. Why aren’t they doing that already? There is no legislation stopping these companies from taking care of the community now!  So why would you believe for even one moment that the people with the real power (jobs) to turn the economy around, who have not exercised that power, are going to make things better if they gain political power. Yeah they’ll make things better – for them.
  4. I tripled my yearly earnings under Clinton, lost everything under Bush, and gained some of it back under Obama. But I’m not assigning credit or blame to any of them, because this is my life and my responsibility, and it’s my hard work, foresight, intuition that causes me to gain or lose. I want you to stop blaming the wrong people for where you are. As a matter of fact, I want you to stop blaming altogether, that’s a lot of your spiritual power that you’re giving away there.
  5. I’ve learned that if you turn off the external noise – friends, family, media – and turn inward to the place in you where God is – he really will make a way where there is no way. I have never considered murder–suicide – not mine, not the President, not my family – as an alternative. You see I know that in 10 years, the past 4 years or so  will be just that – the past, and life and the world will have moved on and the angry people will find someone/something else to be angry about, and I’ll be living and crocheting in Europe (which is a dream of mine and honestly nothing personal against y’all).

 

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Yes,You Can Lose Weight and Get Healthy Eating Real Food

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This blog dances around the theory that everything you need has been or will be provided for you. So while I was surprised when Mamapedia invited me to the “Get Real About Health” webinar recently, I shouldn’t have been. The webinar was sponsored by the California Milk Advisory Board in celebration of National Dairy Month (which is in June) and centered around two major topics :

1. Eating real (good) food for health , weight loss and pleasure

2. Debunking commonly held myths about dairy

Before I get into the details, let me tell you why this was Kismet for me. I have spent the past couple of years coming to the realization that I don’t want to spend the next 30 years  the same way that I’ve spent the last 30 years, namely dieting and failing (the fail part being where you fall off the wagon for whatever reason and gain all the weight back). I  know that I like food, I  have a husband who is a mahvelous cook and likes to experiment in the kitchen – this sucks when what he has whipped up looks and tastes great but “isn’t on my diet”.   At any rate I decided that:

1. Life is too short to deprive oneself

2. There has to be a way to lose weight and stay healthy when you’d rather be crocheting than exercising

3. Given 1 and 2 I will still lose the weight I want to (in time for  my son’s wedding in July)  and keep it off

That brings us to “Real Food Has Curves: How to get off processed food,lose weight, and love what you eat” the 18th book by food authors  Bruce Weinstein & Mark Scarborough. Mark and Bruce pointed out that milk ( which we all tend to avoid don’t we?) and dairy products are “fabulous” real food, which is what you want to incorporate into your diet because when food tastes better we are satisfied much more quickly and for a longer period of time. Furthermore, people who spend more time thinking about and shopping for food, actually weigh less than those of us who find this a mindless/tedious exercise.

“Real Food Has Curves”  presents a simple 7 step program:

STEP 1: Learn The Secrets To Satisfaction –  In this first step you will train your palate to taste your food. One of the reasons we overeat is because we crave satiety, pleasure and taste. The authors recommend that you put your fork down between bites and really enjoy what you have put in your mouth.They discussed the “chewless” society we have become (of course I just inhaled a slice of buttered toast while typing this and will be hungry again in the next 15 minutes or so). Satisfaction also involves eating good real food – for example in my house we only use butter, seriously, it’s a whole different taste game.  Little bit of science from the authors:  Taste is one of the only senses that connects to memory cells – so taste is measured by past experiences and food memories are connected to pleasure centers in brain.  When you begin to eat real food you will find that it has ” layers of flavor”, the more processed the  food is the flatter the taste will be. It is the layers of flavor that help us to feel satisfied, sice “satiety comes from multiple tastes and textures in a dish”.
Test this theory – splurge on real ice cream  or try my my personal favorite a really good apple sliced and combined with slices of  real extra sharp cheddar cheese.

STEP 2- MAKE INFORMED CHOICES
The authors suggest that we are afraid of food  becaus ewe mistakenly believe that it is an  ‘either/ or’ proposition. Real food does not have to be organic veggies and fresh home made tomato sauce; but do “take your glasses to the supermarket” so that you can read labels and compare ingredients, because there is “real” food that is also convenient.

STEP 3 – RELISH WHAT YOU EAT
Why did your last diet fail?  You probably think it’s your fault. Bruce and Mark say that is just not so. Diets fail because we are not motivated by deprivation – we are motivated by pleasure. [imagine that!] They sugggest that we slow down and  focus on our meal, spend more time at the table, and  spend more time shopping and selecting good real food.For example: if you are at the mall and want to have a cookie , then have the cookie but do it right – sit down, relax order a good coffee and the best cookie and savor the tastes and flavors, don’t wolf it down on the way to the next store – eating should be an event. I once worked with a woman who brought her own dishes ,silverware and table linens to the office everyday – she made lunch an occasion.

STEP 4 – DETOX YOUR PALATE FROM USELESS SALT, FATS, AND SUGARS – meaning if you are going to have fats anyway go for olive oil or butter which are much more flavorful than canola or margarine. Use real brown  sugar instead of Sweet and Low or Stevia.  Agave, by the way is real sugar and is recommended.
STEP 5 – TAKE THE LONG VIEW –  Don’t try to change your world, your life, or your kitchen in one fell swoop. Try one new thing a week – a new  way of cooking a vegetable or a new spice,meat or vegetable. I recently discovered turnips which I use in lieu of potatoes.
STEP 6 – UPGRADE YOUR CHOICES – but don’t go over budget trying to afford your upgrades. Use online coupon sites. The California Milk Advisory Board website has a couple of coupons that you may find useful.
Step 7 – TREAT YOURSELF WELL – enjoy real breakfasts and make desserts with real dairy products and real sugar. Eat food that is made of this earth and gives you pleasure.

Finally a few facts about MILK:

1.  Drinking milk does not cause early puberty(excessive weight triggers early puberty). Today’s girls drink less milk than their mothers did , on average girls need 1300mg calcium daily.
2. People tend to misdiagnose themselves with Lactose Intolerance .But it is far less common than believed. Get yourself tested if you think that you may be lactose intolerant. Try eating  yogurt to test tolerance, move on to other forms of dairy but be sure to take with other foods. Eat a little dairy often rather than a lot of dairy less frequently.
3.  Children who drink a lot of milk are not fated to be overweight.
4. Organic milk  and  regular milk are both equally nutritious.
5. Dairy foods are easy natural sources of calcium – you would have to eat 8 cups of raw spinach to get the same amount of calcium in one glass of milk or a cup of yogurt etc.
6. Milk is primary source of Vitamin D in  the American diet – 4 glasses of milk per day(400 IU)  helps prevent some cancers etc.  Get 10-15 minutes of sunlight to allow vitamin D synthesis (more if you are darker, less if you are lighter).

Visit the California Milk Advisory Board to learn more about how real dairy products can help you and your family to be healthier.

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I ,Too, Sing America – The Good Ole Days

I too sing America

I looked in the mirror this morning and noticed that my nose is still broad, my lips are thick, and my skin is still brown (and about to get positively black now that the heat has returned to Georgia); I was thinking about having a nickel for every time I hear someone wishing for the good old days and returning our country to what our forefathers dreamed of , or some such.  I remember the good old days just fine thank you and I like our present days much mo’ better, imperfect as they may be.

I don’t want my kids or my grandkids to be afraid to even drive through certain neighborhoods because they could be mistaken for black people who had come there to start trouble.  When my husband was on tour with El Pus they stayed in some really nice hotels – back in the good old days they would have had to stay at people’s houses or sleep in the car just because they were “colored” .

Back in the old country,  I  lived in a town I lived in a town where bauxite was mined for the Reynolds company. Their executives were all southern whites ( I assume) and they lived on “the hill” where black people could not go unless they were housekeepers, gardeners etc. If a piece of fruit fell on the ground and you picked it up you would be accused of stealing and jailed. When they shopped at the town’s only grocery store, the local “coloreds” were not allowed to shop that day (at least they were nice enough to designate a day for this).  They were OK with us dying in the mines and getting mangled by the equipment though (worker’s comp, disability, pension – all that socialist claptrap, not here man).

When our forefathers wrote the Constitution the certainly weren’t thinking about the rights and freedoms of my husband’s ancestors – neither Cherokee nor African. As a matter of fact, they weren’t thinking about their slaves at all, after all slaves weren’t actually human or anything like that. Giving consideration to slaves would have been like writing provisions into the Constitution for their horses! That would have been Ridiculous, right?

Back in the good old days I most certainly would not have moved TO the South FROM the North. That would have been something like suicide or genocide or some kinda ‘cide.  But don’t get me wrong, the North wasn’t always no crystal stair either. My Mom wanted us to have a house so she moved us to East Flatbush – 3rd Black family in the neighborhood. I heard the word jigaboo more than once, and not in a nice way either (is there a nice way to call someone a jigaboo?) We couldn’t always go play at the neighborhood park, and I remember cowering with Dianne and Cathy in her foyer because Big Rocco and Little Rocco were coming down the street and they would have beat my ass for being Black and beat her and Cathy’s asses for hanging out with ‘niggers’.

What I know is that the world is not now, nor has it ever been, perfect. But it is moving towards perfection every day and in every way. When we try to hold on to the past or roll it back like Walmart rolls back prices, we are actually retarding the progress of the entire world.

So I’m asking you nicely to quit throwing all those prayers out there for a return to “the country of our forefathers”, that is of course unless….OH, I see.

I, Too, Sing America by Langston Hughes
I, too, sing America.

I am the darker brother.
They send me to eat in the kitchen
When company comes,
But I laugh,
And eat well,
And grow strong.

Tomorrow,
I’ll be at the table
When company comes.
Nobody’ll dare
Say to me,
“Eat in the kitchen,”
Then.

Besides,
They’ll see how beautiful I am
And be ashamed–

I, too, am America.

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The Real Truth About Network Marketing – The More You Fail, The More You Will Succeed

“To think what you want to think is to think Truth, regardless of appearances” – Wallace D. Wattles

momentum is everythingIt’s going to happen to you (if it hasn’t already), whether it’s a phone call  or a face to face  with a network marketer, or maybe you will attend a local meeting  of a network marketing company.  The person who prospects you will tell you about Suzy Q the homemaker who just wanted to make $400 extra a month to help her hardworking husband with the bills, who threw herself into network marketing  and it was so hard that she almost gave up! But she kept at it and today she is a six-figure earner! And then there’s Jimmy Z, everyone knows about Jimmy, he started way back when before Al Gore invented the Internet and he built a multi-million dollar business by doing meetings in McDonald’s and grocery store aisles!

If you go to a local meeting Suzy, Jimmy and their friends will be paraded across the stage and they will each tell their story and they will cry genuine tears – because it was hard and everyone laughed at them and said it couldn’t be done – and they did it anyway! At this point you will be crying too as you fill out the form being handed to you.

When all is said and done you have joined a new business opportunity, you are pumped, you are ready to change your life, you are going to eliminate all of your debt in the next 12 months! You’re so danged excited that it’s hard to sleep some nights, I mean after all you are going to be earning six figure by this time next year – imagine that!

But wait – did you not hear the disclaimer, did you miss the part about :

1. Results not being typical and

2. And the fact that it can  take a lot of years, tears and hard work for the average Joe to succeed

Yes, yes, in your excitement you totally missed where Jimmy said that he talks to folks in parking lots (that’s gauche and yo don’t plan to do that and anyway you just got this email from some MLM guru guy who for just $1197.00 is going to show you howto earn 10K per month by this time next month).  You didn’t miss the part about two to ten years to that six-figure income because that’s for average people and you plan to be Suzy Q the one who did it in a year, heck if she can do it so can you!

So  (totally ignoring all the training you are receiving from your team about investing time rather than money at the front end)  you buy expensive leads, take out expensive ads, and do that guru program and you check your back office and bank account daily to see if you’ve signed up  a thousand distributors and made any progress towards your 10K.  Well that’s just exhausting isn’t it?

And when you realize that you’ve invested more than you’ve made, well that’s when you start to throw up the “Obstacles To Your Own Success”:

1. You begin to find fault with your upline – after all he brought you in, he gets paid off you every month,why isn’t he helping you?  Why doesn’t he provide you with leads or do calls for you so you can watch TV in peace?  And he probably doesn’t even make as much as he said. What a loser, he’s just using you…..

2. You begin to find fault with your company, product or team and you disconnect – you don’t listen to training calls, you don’t attend events, you think the product or service is too expensive or doesn’t work….

3. You become cynical about network marketing – after all everywhere you look on the internet they say 97% fail, and you probably have to get in at the beginning to be successful, and maybe it really is a scam….

So where are you right now? Are you reaching for the stars or are you throwing up obstacles?

* disclaimer- Al Gore did not invent the Internet

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Struggling? Here Are 10 Steps To A New Home or Just a New Mortgage Payment

NACA.com promotes home ownershipMany of us were hurt by the fallout from failed banks, failed mortgage companies, and failed financial strategies.  First home prices fell, then salaries fell – and shortly thereafter we realized that we were :

  1. In the best real estate buyers market ever with no way to take advantage of it – OR-
  2. Carrying a mortgage payment that we could no longer afford

Before we go any further let me make one thing clear – millions of people across America didn’t just wake up one day and each make the same bad financial decision to get into a mortgage they could not afford. I know that this is what some of you believe (and very strongly at that)  because it’s what the media tells you, it’s what your favorite talk radio guy tells you – but that don’t make it true people.

The fact of the matter is that you can have a low interest rate mortgage with a low monthly payment – but if you do not have  the same income that you did 3 years ago (or you have no income at all) no one and I mean absolutely nobody is going to help you when you’ve fallen 3 months behind, five months behind or even 6 months behind. The mortgage companies’ idea of  “a workout” is  often laughable; to you an dI it would make sense for them to look at your current income/debt and give you a payment that you could actually afford so that you and your neighbors can stay in their homes. But, nooooo, instead tey will attach the six months sans interest to your existing monthly payment and give you a payment that is basically double the amount that you couldn’t pay in the first place!

In some parallel universe this strategy makes total sense, unfortunately we do not live there, we are ere in tis universe where we end up losing tat home to foreclosure and then the bank sells your $100,000 home for $20,000. That’s right twenty thousand dollars! Now why couldn’t they just give you an affordable payment instead? If one of  you, my dear  readers , understands why this is please tell me so that I can explain it to my cousin who lost her home in just this way.

To add insult to injury, we also have companies who will take what little you have left in your savings account to assist you in getting a “loan modification” . I like to call this something for nothing, they take your money and promise you salvation, and you end up with the same deal that I mentioned earlier – that wonderful “workout” thing.

Well thank God for “The Neighborhood Assistance Corporation of America” and founder Bruce Marks who believe that neighborhood stabilization means getting people into home ownership and keeping existing homeowners in their homes.  NACA is a non-profit group that advocates for homeowners and would be homeowners. Their Home Save program can help you to get into an affordable mortgage situation if:

  1. You live in your home
  2. You only have one property in your name

To get help from NACA you must :

  • Visit NACA.com and find a Workshop near you
  • Fill out the forms on the NACA website and get an appointment with a counselor
  • I suggest filling out the forms after you have attended a workshop as the workshop will teach you how to fill the forms out correctly
  • Become a part of the solution. NACA is all about giving back, so don’t just take your new low mortgage payment and walk away. Volunteer to help out at workshops, help the advocacy effort by  advocating for economic justice to politicians at the  local , state, and national levels.

NACA is not a  government handout and no one gets something for nothing.  It is the kind of program this country desperately needs, so tell all of your friends and families – no one should lose their home when help is so close at hand.

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Why Don’t We Need Health Care Reform?

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Lately there has been a very loud and unhealthy discussion about health insurance in this country. I say unhealthy because the discussion very rarely focuses on the facts and no one walks away from the fight feeling good about it. In my discussion on the subject I would like to remove the political component:

  1. Forget about what side of the aisle the people that you voted for sit – chances are they don’t have any of your interests at heart anyway
  2. Forget about the color of our President and whether or not he has all the qualities of the antichrist as stated in the Bible – that’s just the arrogance of every generation thinking that we are so important that the world will end on our watch and in our lifetime
  3. Forget about what you have heard on TV the radio or from newspaper articles and editorials – it’s all spin since everyone has an angle on this thing and anyway for the most part those guys have good insurance that they can afford

Instead let’s talk about you and me and our experience with the health care system. If you currently:

  • pay less than $100 per month for insurance or have in the past
  • and have never paid more than $10-$40 out of pocket for medical, dental, vision, prescription or a visit to the chiropractor
  • and this is not Medicare or Medicaid

I would understand if you  drop out of the discussion at this point as it is probably difficult, if not impossible for you to understand what all the fuss is about.  But I suggest you stick around so that you can understand what others have experienced or are experiencing.

If you are on Medicaid or Medicare, or have a child enrolled in a federal or state run health plan,  then I definitely want you to stay and give us some insight on what a “government run” health care system is like. For example:

  1. What does it cost you monthly?
  2. How much do you pay for prescriptions?
  3. Have you ever been denied care because you are on “the dole” so to speak?
  4. Do you feel that you receive inferior care because you are on Medicaid or Medicare?

For those of us who fit into none of the above . Those of us who pay anywhere from $200 to $600 plus per month for health insurance. Those of us who have paid additional  health care bills of  anywhere from  $300 to $300K  over and above what we paid for health insurance. I have to ask, what are we doing? Why are we fighting each other? What are we seriously fighting for ?

Last year I wrote an article about consumer driven health care and I told the story of a woman who paid over $300 per month to insure herself and her teenaged child. She required dental surgery that would take several iterations, but was not able to finish the process because she could not pay the $3000.00 bill.  So the world turned and a year later she finds herself working for this very same insurance company, and guess what? She only pays $20 a month for her coverage.  There is a saying that came to mind when I heard about that “somebody is buying you wholesale and selling you retail”.  I mean seriously people, if the insurance company employees can pay only $20 per month for coverage, why are you and I paying upwards of $300.00? What the heck are we paying for exactly?

I’ve had a discount plan for almost three years now (read why here), even though I work full time and my job offers benefits I declined them – do you want to know why? Because my discount plan costs $360 per year, I pay a discounted fee at the doctor, the dentist, the drug store, and even when I get glasses – and I am still spending less than the $10,000 plus  per year that I invested back when I had employer sponsored health care.

When I had insurance I had to get an HSA to cover those extras that my insurance did not cover. I breezed through a $2000 HSA easily. Why is that? Why do we pay so much for something that does not do the job? And why are we letting the insurance companies spend our money on lobbyists and bad advertising? Why aren’t we mad about this? Talk to me, I’m listening…

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This Product Sells Itself & Other Marketing Myths

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I want a nickel for every time that I’ve been told “This product sells itself”. It wouldn’t bother me so much if there weren’t such a proliferation of advertising across the Interwebz about opportunities where the product or service is so necessary to everyday living that , well it just jumps out of the cases in your garage and into the waiting arms of consumers across America.

It got me to thinking ,  food is a bare necessity but my local supermarket has to send a sales paper to get me in there to make a purchase, so food doesn’t sell itself.  Clothing is a necessity,and again if there isn’t a sale on, don’t look for me at the mall. Shelter, now there’s a necessity, and we all know what happened to the US housing market over the past two years or so.  So if the bare necessities don’t sell themselves, then obviously nothing else will either.

Everything is about selling. Getting a good job is all about making a sales call on a recruiter or manager and hoping that you close the sale  and walk away hired. Keeping a job means selling your personality and skills daily to people that you may or may not even want to be around -but you’ve got to pay the bills for all the crap you’ve been sold on. When you met your spouse you had to sell him or her on You, if you’re single and looking then chances are you are selling every time you go on a date or meet someone new.

Life my friend, is a sales call. What am I really saying though? I am saying that  if you want to get into network marketing or internet marketing, by all means do it, there is so much income potential in these two areas. But don’t fall for the okey doke, if someone tells you that you can make 20k a month starting tomorrow, while you sleep and your turnkey system does all the work — well if you believe them that’s on you.

You can become a successful marketer with ease (and that ease is all in your head, it’s your mindset that dictates the level of  “ease”),  but you can’t become one by being lazy, or waiting for the guy who signed you up to do the work for you, or reading books that teach strategies which you never implement. Nor can you become one if you don’t want your information on the internet and refuse to use social media tools, or are afraid to pick up the phone and actually talk to other humans about your product, service or opportunity.

This product doesn’t sell itself, you do — so get to work.

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