When quitting is the only option

Are You A Quitter? I know I am. When the going gets tough the tough may get going but the niseylee usually gives up and moves on. From academics to relationships, I always assumed that I just was not cut out for the hard stuff.

I think it’s the commitment that sticking with it requires. For example, if you yourself have been hurt in a relationship or you’ve watched your parents engage in a combative and painful relationship- it would make you gun shy wouldn’t it? Definitely not apt to stay in a relationship long enough to get to the part where someone could actually hurt you.

In business, the chronic quitter does not stick around long enough to be placed in a position of authority and responsibility. Guess they are afraid they will “let someone down” or actually have to “show some results”.

So what’s a commitment phobic under achiever who craves success to do anyway? I’m glad you asked:

  1. Define what success means to you (lose weight, earn more, have happy healthy kids etc)
  2. Based on this definition, set some short term ( 1 -12 months) and long term (1-5 years) goals
  3. Accept responsibility for your past actions and their present consequences
  4. Live your life on purpose, nothing is accidental

Let’s face it quitters never win because they just don’t ever finish what they start. So are you a quitter?

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Adopting the Immigrant Mindset

My parents brought us to America many moons ago,

I am an immigrant, and I hope that gives some credence to my theory that immigrants can teach us something about focus and being successful in business.

I wrote a little e-book that I will tell you about some other time, and I devoted an entire chapter to why first and second generation immigrants tend to be such go-getters (and conversely why it took me so long to embrace this).  Without further ado, here are some tips on how you too can be like Mikhail, Miguel, Mike or even me-:)

  1. Accept a certain level of risk Don’t just think that you can, know that you can do anything that you set out to do. Otherwise, why would someone leave behind a fairly successful life, family, the familiar?
  2. Be patient. Rome wasn’t built in a day and your career or business won’t go boom overnight. It took my mother almost 4 years to gather the necessary paperwork, apply for and get a job, and finally receive government approval to come to the United States. It took an additional five years of struggle (yes that means working two, sometimes 3 jobs) to get her 5 kids, one brother and one niece out of a two-bedroom apartment and into a six-bedroom brownstone.
  3. Be willing to make sacrifices. Personal, emotional, and financial. You may have to sell your car or move back in with your parents, or deny your children that Nintendo Wii they’ve been wanting. There will be bigger better cars, a home of your own, and a gaming system for each child at the end of the day. On the average immigrants leave behind a major part of their family, all of their friends, and have sailed out of their comfort zone into a language and culture that is absolutely foreign to them. My mother and uncle were not there for their mother when she took sick; my uncle was on a student visa at the time and could not go home to bury his mother – and he was her baby boy, so imagine his pain and sacrifice.
  4. Make your business a family affair. Ever notice who is working the counter at your favorite Chinese restaurant, neighborhood grocery store, or cleaners? Involve your kids as your first employees, but make sure that they don’t neglect their school work.
  5. Don’t be afraid to fail at least once. Don’t prolong your failures, learn from your mistakes and move on to bigger and better things.
  6. Stay focused on your goals and on the reason that you have for achieving those goals. If you know where you want to go and why you want to get there, it will be that much easier to stay the course

These are just a few things that I learned from watching my family and the other immigrants in the neighborhood where I grew up. Of course I probably missed quite a bit, so do me a favor, leave me your thoughts on and I will do a second post.

Read My Ezine Articles About The Immigrant Mindset

  • What Do Immigrants Know That You Don’t?
    [Home-Based-Business:Network-Marketing] Why do immigrants flock to America in droves? Why are they willing to sacrifice so much just to be here? Why are they and their children so often entrepreneurial success stories? What the heck are we missing?
  • Adopting the Immigrant Mindset
    [Home-Based-Business:Network-Marketing] Okay so now you know a little bit about what creates and drives the immigrant entrepreneur. How can you bottle that and spray it all over yourself like perfume? Here are a few tips I picked up by doing some research.

    Don’t Try This At Home Kids!

    I was speaking with a prospect the other night, great conversation, cool dude. We finally got around to talking about why I had called (hey, I work from home so I get in some human contact when/where I can) and he said “Oh, I think I tried that already, I got my kit and looked inside and just decided that I didn’t want to do it”.

    Note bien kiddos: “There is no try, there is only do..or do not” this from the first dog whisperer, Yoda. Either do the thing or don’t do it, you’re in or you’re not – there’s no fence-sitting allowed when it comes to being an entrepreneur. And that applies double if you’re a network marketing entrepreneur you have to make a commitment to do whatever is necessary to be successful.

    OK, so what if when you were born your parents said “we’ll try this parenting thing” What does that imply? That if it doesn’t work out they’ll drop you off at the hospital the way some parents dd (with kids as old as 17) in Nebraska recently? That they’ll give it a shot but your grandparents have to promise to take over if they screw up? That they’ll do it only as long as it’s fun, rewarding, and doesn’t take too much time away from what they really want to do? Or maybe just that they need an exit clause on your birth certificate?

    You know of 100 people who start in a home based business, only 3 (yes THREE) will actually continue to do the business to the point where they are making a beyond comfortable living at it.

    What happens to the other 97? Well, some quit because it’s just not for them (can’t get over the phone fear, their Mom said it was stupid, they didn’t have the time they thought they would have) which translates to “Just way harder than I expected” and others (ignoring the advice from their upline) throw too much money at their business and end up broke and disgusted. Then there are the business straddlers who are in 4 or 5 different businesses and never quite make it to the pinnacle of any one single business – because “trying” isn’t the same as “doing”.

    Well I went on that rampage just to say – if you will stop “trying” to be in business for yourself and instead give proper time and effort to the business that you are in… well you just might be successful.

    Stop Worrying…Please

    “If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.” -George Burns (Comedian)

    With a recession upon us, uncertainty about the safety of our jobs, the possibility of higher taxes on our businesses, we have reason to worry. But

    stress leads to heart disease, cancer, stomach problems and eventually death. What we think affects how we feel and eventually it affects whether we are here – or not here.

    How can you stop worrying and get back to your goals of achieving financial freedom and having a better life?

    I am glad you asked, because I have got a couple of tips that will help you to do just that.

    Number one, you must recognize that there is something greater than you, a force inside of us which must be acknowledged. When we descend into worry about the little things as well as the big things, we abandon our spiritual power and leave all to our reasoning mind. Naturally, the reasoning mind tends to move away from ease and into struggle.

    The reasoning mind does not recognize or understand the power of our spoken words and thoughts and instead of letting go and letting the answers come, it tries to create solutions.

    The reasoning mind tells us what we cannot do, cannot achieve, cannot dream and why this is so.

    The reasoning mind is your own personal dream stealer and a major cause of worry and stress.

    Please believe me when I say that everything you need is already at your disposal. But you have to let go and let the power within work through you.