It’s Not The Size of The Wave – It’s The Motion Of The Ocean

Let me start by saying that this blog post is not about what you’re thinking it’s about.

I’ve been thinking about the whole concept of “overweight” and what the numbers and measurements do to us and why we diet and exercise like mad men and women (right before succumbing to lunch at Golden Corral cause everyone’s going).

This morning , as I rooted about in my closet for something comfortable to wear to the grocery store, it came to me. It’s not my skin that I’m not comfortable in – it’s my clothes.

I was one size (small to medium) most of my life and then suddenly I wasn’t anymore. And no matter what I did, I couldn’t get back to the place where I was the most comfortable in my clothes.

The thing is that there are plus size (how come there isn’t a minus size? I’m just thinking out loud here) women who know how to work it. Their clothes, their hair, their make-up is just always on point. These women look so good that their being “overweight” is a non-issue.

I am not one of these women. I gained weight and totally lost my sense of style. When my reflection and I cross paths we both cringe.  I am constantly trying to lose weight hoping that I will regain my good taste in clothes and remember how to dress myself.

I am not alone. I talk to women all of the time who are doing Sensa, Zumba, the military diet etc. and so on – just so they do not have to start buying clothes in the next size range. I actually wonder if big girls who wear it well, do so because it’s the size they’ve always been and it’s their comfort zone. OK that might be a reach, my sisters have been all along the size spectrum and they always look good.

Maybe it is just me…..maybe I should jump into the ocean and get out of the Nile.

Me- Just Rambling On

I don’t Facebook much anymore, but when I do, I inevitably run into some political discussion about black and white or male and female. Discussions usually started by people who don’t realize that what they know is all they know and probably all they will ever know because that’s how they like it. But what really gets to me is the people who jump into these discussions armed with nothing, not realizing that they are just as clueless as the ignorant ones, and are doing nothing to advance their own cause. They are, as the Woodchuck is fond of saying, going to a gunfight armed with a knife.

Sometimes I still hear people talk about affirmative action. They seem to believe that for some of us (read Blacks and women) success has come only because of affirmative action.

When I began my life in corporate America everyone told me how lucky I was to be a double token. They (and to some extent I) assumed that being black and a woman would take me places. I am still waiting for the magic dust to work.

Further down the road someone else told me that it’s not who you know, or who you blow; it’s how you blow who you know. Well that totally explains the failure of my double token magic fairy “come in here dear boy have a cigar you’re going to go far” dust.

I Love New York – Don’t You?

I was telling a Facebook friend that it surely is difficult to work full-time, crochet part time, manage an online shop AND find time be a social media maven and blogger. I know that I have to do better, but once my work day is over I turn into the happiest hooker ever and ignore my computer. I really need to do better…sigh.

This month sales have really slowed down, so I am using my free time to work on my I Love New York collection. Remember that tee shirt I showed you in my last post? Well I did a little re-work and think I was finally able to be true to the vision that I had. What do you think?

I have also found a wee bit of time to round out part one of the collection with a sexy V-neck upcycled tshirt, a slouch and a beanie inspired by the recent successes of the New York Knicks. And a pair of boot cuffs with orange and blue ruffles which can also be worn as wrist warmers (yes I know, what a great idea Miss Nisey!). Here they are for your viewing pleasure. Part two involves black, white, and the Brooklyn Nets (I’m from Brooklyn…but you knew that).

This HandMade Life- It Ain’t Easy Being a Designing Woman

No matter what you’ve seen on reality TV.

I have a little time now that the Christmas season is over and, while I spend most of it being totally fricking UNinspired, every once in a while I get an idea. This week’s idea was “I Love New York”, a collection of items inspired by my love of the greatest city in the world (or maybe I’m homesick, whatever). I made the mistake of starting with up cycled tees ( we went home last summer, bought a couple or three tee shirts, no one actually wears that stuff once they get back home, so you’re left with a bag of brand new t-shirts).
I wanted something sexy, off the shoulder, with Knicks colors and frills and all that. This is what I ended up with
- yes I’m frogging as we speak, then I’m going to hopefully redeem myself by creating something totally awesome….tomorrow.

My Jaco Pastorius Beanie Fixation Update

very close to the original I thinkBack in August (gee has it been that long?) I told you how obsessed I was with this Jaco Pastorius beanie that I’d seen on the cover of a bass player book. At the time I was stash busting, so I went all in and made like a whole 5 beanies (hangs head in shame). My excitement was so contagious that even the Woodchuck agreed to let me take pics of him wearing my beanies while playing his favorite basses (actually I think he just wanted the pictures of the basses, but we take what we can get, right?).

I posted my items on Etsy and promptly crocheting is like music and sometimes you have to jazz it upthe Woodchuck can't pick up a bass without playing itforgot about the whole thing because it was time to start crocheting for the holidays. I posted these items thinking that women and/or girls would find these to be cute little presents for their significant others. I was surprised to discover that guys shop on Etsy too (does this make me sexist?) and they are very decisive shoppers. None of that  “I’ll favorite this now and see if I still like it later” stuff.

Which made me realize that I had been all but ignoring an important demographic – men and teenage boys. I am working on fixing that as we speak (well not really because who can type and crochet at the same time anyway?).

And, finally (because I have been under the musical tutelage and influence of the Woodchuck), I’m just so happy to see that Jaco is still remembered and revered by the youngsters.


I’d Rather be Red

If you asked five of my close relations what their favorite color is, three of them are more than likely going to say “red”. That’s just the way it is with us, we love red in our houses and on our persons.

Red looks good on everyone and it comes in so many shades that you can wear it to stand out and you can wear it to blend in. You can wear it to honour your favorite team or you can get all sparkly for a night out (or you can do both at once as in this beanie which has the red white and black of the Atlanta Falcons but with a lot of sparkle).

Red White and Black Beanie

Red White and Black Beanie With a little red sparkle

When I decorate my house for the holidays I think red tablecloths, fat red candles, heavy red velvet drapes, and a lot of gold and silver for accent.  My favorite holiday accessories tend to be red – red hats, red scarves and a red fleece that I’ve had since (probably) the nineties.

Therefore it follows that I crochet a lot of red items leading up to the holidays and that for Black Friday and Cyber Monday I should offer these items to you with FREE SHIPPING via Priority Mail, so that you too can get your red on for the holidays!I'd Rather be Red


My Jaco Pastorius Beanie Issue

you really can't see the hat in this pic but thought I'd provide it for context and all that

I don’t know that I’d call it an issue exacly, maybe fixation is a better word, or obsession i dunno. Last week I was in my bathroom and saw that my husband had a book called “Bass Heroes ” on the counter. There were pictures of three bassists looking all rock and roll and everything on the cover there, but the only one I noticed was Jaco because (oh you’re wondering why I knew which one was Jaco? read on I’ll tell all in a minute) he had this  colorful beanie thing on and us hookers are trained to spot crochet like from across football fields.

I’d been thinking about making some stuff for guys because I never seem to make it into the Etsy Dudes email  LOL – and anyway I like guys -I did raise 3 of them after all. Well 4 if you count my husband the bass playing rodent (and yeah that’s why I know who Jaco is).  Not only did I want to make some guy stuff, but I have like a boatload of yarn remnants and am in a “no buy” zone until I can bust that stash.

the colors here were inspired by the "other" Jaco beanie

substituted gold for orange

It was very frustrating for me because I worked late the entire week and vowed to spend no-crochet time with the kid and grandkid before they headed back to school. Finally, it was Friday and I was free  – to crochet that is. My husband requisitioned (stole?) the first one that I made so I had to go make some more for my shop. I am terrible with color (go figure) so each one took a little while as I tried to match colors in a way that wasn’t totally fugly. Luckily I started out with some really happy colors like orange and turquoise and yellow, but they’re all gone now – I guess this is what you call a challenge…

Excuse typos, misspellings and lack of punctuation, it is so way past my bedtime. Tell me what you think though.


The Quick And Dirty Guide to Getting What You Want

  1. Begin by asking for forgiveness – everybody needs forgiveness and a clean slate, including you.
  2. Remember that what you think about you bring about – so if all you think about is debt and you’re trying to manifest money – guess what?- that’s right you’ll be receiving some bills but they won’t be greenbacks.
  3. Know that what you wish for others you also wish for yourself – so wash your mouth out with soap and speak nicely to and about everybody
  4. Maintain an attitude of gratitude – be thankful for what you’ve got, what you’re going to get , and all the things you used to have.
  5. Remain in the present because (whatever your circumstances) right here, right now is exactly where you are supposed to be(and honestly is the fact that your parents may or may not have loved your brother really relevant to your current situation?)
  6. Realize that you can’t always get what you want (after all you’re not 5 years old anymore right?), but (as the song says) if you try sometime you might just find that you get what you need


I Never Hated Tim Tebow

But I also don’t associate his success with my religious beliefs, ya know? Nice game yesterday young man. Had to get that out…and I have so much more to talk about. Like how grateful I am to all of my friends and customers for the phenomenal success my online shops and my offline sales had this past holiday season. And how my first Jamila Henna experience went ( I love it BTW). And of course there will be a rah rah lets get this 2012 party started right post. But all that will be after I finally finish telling you why I quit network marketing, and why I will probably never go back, and also why that shouldn’t affect your decision one way or the other.

Unfortunately before I can get to writing blog posts I have to make some more character hats for the Homegrown Decatur store (it’s at 100 Church Street in Decatur Ga, right next to the Marta station) and finish working on the latest additions to my womens (and sometimes mens) felted hats collections.

While you are waiting pop over to and take 20% off any item (even if it’s already on sale) with coupon code FBFRIENDS.

Busy is good!