Monthly Archives: March 2009

March 30, 2009

San Jose Earthquakes , March Madness, & Gratitude

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Is it the end of the month already? Well let’s wrap it up shall we?
Couple of months ago I invited some of youse (that’s how we say y’all in Brooklyn) to join me in taking that excess weight off.  I am happy to report that I did manage to take off about 10lbs and am now working on the other 50 or so-:) I was reading a post over at Building Bigger Barns about the Hackers Diet and I got so excited I read the whole thing in a couple of hours. You can go read it for yourself or wait for me to find  time to tell you about it.

I read my last post and realized that I may have given the impression that all you have to do is say your affirmations over a steaming cauldron and anything you wish for will come true.  Well, not exactly, you see affirmations are just a way to reprogram your brain and remind yourself that you have the power to manifest your heart’s desire in your experience in reality. But…as with anything else, there  will probably always be some action required on your part.

For example, let’s say you need an income – you can ‘t just say “Infinite Spirit I give thanks that the 100k income which is mine by Divine Right has now been released and comes to me quickly under grace and in a perfect way” and spend the rest of the month watching M*A*S*H reruns on TVLand! You have to be the catalyst for change in your life. Nuff said, leave me a comment if you’re confused.

I am grateful for:

  • The awesome Freedom At Home Team & Ameriplan in general where you get love and advice and assistance  from people who don’t benefit financially from your success!
  • My wonderful team – I like to call them my Success Line
  • My family – I appreciate ya even if I don’t have time for you-:)

I haven’t been able to read much this month but Politicus and my girl RE  at Bad Gals Radio are shaking things up   – hop over and see what all the fuss about,  if you have an opinion make sure to leave it with one of them.  My boy Sheen did a hilarious piece on whether or not you should boost your number of Twitter followers artificially.  You should also check out my top commenter Steve who writes some seriously on point stuff for anyone looking to improve themselves on the journey to financial freedom.

Regardless of your political affiliation you need to read this article and learn what really happened with AIG, careful some profanity.

As always thanks to my Entrecard  top droppers for this month, the links are to the right, please visit their sites.

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March 23, 2009

7 Affirmations I Never Leave Home Without

affirmations do work

affirmations do work

I use affirmations all of the time. I wish that I had known about them when I was young, chances are I did know, but did not care or did not believe ( I met a dude the other day who told me that karma doesn’t exist, he’s in his 20s give him time). If you are going to do affirmations remember that they do not work if you don’t think that they do, and also that you can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you get what you need. OK that’s a Rolling Stones song, but it applies anyway.

  1. My all time favorite, never ever leave home without it. We were renovating our kitchen and I was looking for a stainless steel refrigerator back when stainless steel became popular again and I specifically wanted a side by side, ice and water dispenser etc etc. Well everything we looked at was 1500+ and being quite frugal I just was not about to spend that much on a refrigerator. We were out doing something or another one day and I was saying in my head “I expect the unexpected, my glorious good now comes to pass, spirit don’t let me miss a trick“.  I had a hunch to go to yet another appliance store before we headed home, well what do ya know, they had my refrigerator (with a tiny, still can’t find it, scratch) so it was marked down to just over $600!
  2. Recruiting and business building – I borrowed this one from another network marketer who’s famous but I can’t remember his name (LOL) and I don’t want to put the wrong name – “To my reality I now attract quality likeminded  individuals who I can partner with to generate 6 figure results in the next 12 months“
  3. Interviews, face to face presentations and stuff like that : “I am identified in love with the spirit of (person (s) name), God protects my interests and the divine idea now comes out of the situation“
  4. Forgiveness – We like to say that nobody’s perfect all of the time, and for the times that you have been more than imperfect this does the trick. I like to call it a karmic cleansing, start by acknowledging that you made a mistake and accept responsibility for it. “I call on the law of  forgiveness. I am free from mistakes and the consequences of mistakes. I am under grace and not under Karmic law”
  5. Casting the Burden – Just lost your job, bill collectors calling, marriage crumbling, resenting everyone including your spouse, your former boss, and former co-workers who didn’t get laid off? Then you need to start by casting the burden so you can move on. “I cast this burden of  (name your own poison here  examples are lack, resentment, unhappiness) on the Christ within and go free (to have plenty, to be happy and harmonious etc)” So an actual affirmation woud read “I cast this burden of lack and resentment on the Christ within and go free to be loving, harmonious, happy and prosperous “
  6. You know in Napoleon Hill’s Think & Grow Rich he emphasizes the need to be decisive, if you find yourself suffering from indecision and/or insecurity here are two affirmations that could save you:
    1. “I am always under direct inspiration, I make right decisions quickly”
    2. “I am fully equipped for the divine plan of my life”
  7. Two of my favorites for success and prosperity. Notice it says ” Irresistible power and determination”  how can the Universe possibly resist you?
    1. I now draw from the universal substance with irresistible power and determination that which is mine by divine right
    2. I give thanks that the millions which are mine by divine right now pour in and pile up under grace in perfect ways

Most of these come directly from the book  “The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn”; this book was not  my introduction to metaphysics, but it came at a time when I was ready to receive the message. I had been laid off, been on many interviews and still no job, was about to lose my health insurance and was delirious most of the time from the flu. I read the book cover to cover and began to cast all those dang burdens immediately.  Find even more affirmations in  Florence’s book , but remember your cynical request will be answered in a like manner.

Oh and the house is mine , I’ll share that affirmation and the story behind it …next time.

What are your favorite affirmations? Care to share one with us?

March 16, 2009

Does Phone Fear Leave You Cowering In a Corner?

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When working your home based business, do your hands tremble, like an alcoholic in delirium tremens, as you reach for the phone to make the first call of the day? Do you sweat in unmentionable places as you run through your prospecting spiel? Does every “No” or “Not Interested” bring you that much closer to just throwing in the towel on network marketing?

There’s a cure for that you know, and it doesn’t involve giving up on yourself  or your dream of earning a full-time income from home. Have you ever heard “You’re too attached to the outcome” and wondered what the heck you should be attached to if not the outcome, or at least wondered what your upline was trying to tell you?  Well thank goodness you found this post, because I am going to explain to you exactly what that means and how to get yourself detached and maybe even recruit some folks into your opportunity or sell some product.

Remove the “tele” from your marketing moniker

You are not a telemarketer, so don’t get on the phone sounding like one. You bring a lot of negative energy when you do that and your prospect is turned off before you can even get warmed up. So, rather than asking for your prospect (“Hello can I speak to George?”), assume that they are the person that answered the phone : “Hi George, it’s Monica how’s it going?”

Do you think that you’re in this business to make money?

If you believe in your heart that the purpose of your business is just to make money, then that right there, is your problem. The outcome that you’re attached to is earning money by marketing this product or enrolling this new business partner.  You are oozing scammer slime and your prospect hears you drooling down that phone line.

Your special purpose ( as Steve Martin said in “The Jerk”) is to help people solve their problems – whether it’s a lack of money problem or a bad skin problem or a need to lose weight problem or a “my son is a teenager now and I want to spend time together before he heads off to college” problem.

Your special purpose is not to be the solution to their problem, or make your solution fit their problem, it’s simply to figure out what that problem is. So lets practice, you’re still talking to George. You’ve already told him that you’re calling him back to give him that information that he requested about starting his own business (or working at home or whatever).  Now George is going to try to get you to launch straight into your pitch, but you need to pace yourself, because first you need to find out what George is all about and what makes him tick (because when you close him on this call or a follow up call, you will need to be able to push those buttons).

The next step in your prospecting call should be an easy give and take – a discovery process if you will, where you move the focus off the “sale” and put it on George and his problem. Is George currently working? What does he do? Does he like it? Why does he want to work from home? How much money does he want to make? What’s he going to do with all of that money? And so on, note that you should follow every answer from George with another question; this means you have to really listen to George and try to understand what he means (use a feedback technique “So George what I’m hearing is…”)

Sometimes you are able to determine fairly early on that you just do not have the solution to George’s problem,  and that’s alright, that’s detachment.

That’s exactly what not being attached to the outcome means; especially in network and affiliate marketing where you have got to be “OK” with not being the solution to everyone’s problem.

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March 13, 2009

On Faith | Fear is the Opposite of Faith

BUQUE HACIA PARQUE NACIONAL DE DOÑANA

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“He said to them, “Why are you afraid, you men of little faith?” Then He got up and rebuked the winds and the sea, and it became perfectly calm.” – Matthew 8:26

A child comes into the world with two fears (falling and loud noises), yet by the time they are five they are burdened with additional fears:

  • abandonment
  • strangers
  • spankings and retribution

As adults we find ourselves a bundle of nerves and fears. Radio personalities tell us that our world is falling apart, politicians (by their actions) tell us there is no hope, we are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing at work or in social situations, we worry that we won’t be able to pay the bills this month, we are afraid that we have not instilled the right values in our children, and we’re afraid of people who are different from us.

Faith is the antidote to every fear that lives in your mind or in your heart. Faith thoughts will stop your fear thoughts dead in their tracks. With faith you can sail through any crisis successfully, while fear can stop you right where you are and even kill you. It is almost sinful to choose fear over faith, and I am always disappointed in those religious leaders who do this.

If you are a marketer then fear is your enemy, it drains you of energy and ambition. Fear is hard work and if you are putting all of your energy into being afraid, then where is the positive energy that you need to build your business?

To be successful in business and in life we have to recognize that today is all we have, tomorrow has not happened yet and yesterday is over – can’t relive it or redo it, it is gone, gone , gone. Since today is it, you have to do it up right:

  • wake up with an attitude of gratitude and a positive affirmation
  • expect the very best of yourself and others
  • be joyful!
  • don’t worry about tomorrow, it won’t happen until you wake up again and by then – it’ll be today

Florence Scovel Shinn says that if you walk up to the lion in your path he will vanish into native nothingness. What that means is that when you face your fears they will disappear, because they are made of air. You’re laughing, I know, you’re thinking “You idiot, people are losing their homes and their jobs, our kids are losing they’re lives to war, gangs and drugs.  How do you make that disappear?”

Let me qualify the statement above – when you walk up to the lion in your pathway, armed with the knowledge and faith that he is nothing and cannot destroy you, he will vanish into his native nothingness.

Do you have faith, or are you going to let your fears rule your life?

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March 7, 2009

The Slight Edge | Don’t Despise Your Day Of Small Beginnings

money comes quickly and easilyWhy Do Network Marketers Fail?
Is it because they aren’t committed?
Or perhaps they lack the skills due to poor training?
Or maybe they don’t have the time or money to do their business the way that they want/need to?

OR

Maybe  network marketers don’t fail, maybe they expect a big breakthrough and when it doesn’t come they just give up.

Why do they give up? They give up because their expectations are out of proportion to their ability to deliver the goods. What the heck does that mean anyway? It means that we all have a  “big break” mentality, rather than a slow growth mentality. We fully expect all of our dreams to come true right now, and when that does not happen, we move on to a new job, new team, or new  dream rather than try again.

I bet that you look at the success of others and say “Why can’t that be me?” or worse yet “that will never be me”. Think about it even if Eben Pagan, Mike Dillard, Ellie Drake, Stephen Pierce and Dani Johnson came to your house, sat down with you, showed you what they did to be successful, and left you with the caveat “remember, it’s not an overnight thing” – only 1 out of 5 of you would actually get it. There will be four who wake up the next day (the next week, the next month, the next year) still wondering why their proximity to such successful people did not breed success for them.

The one person who did “get it” will :

  1. stay up late that night writing down her definite purpose
  2. wake up on day two or three or four with  a plan to achieve those goals
  3. implement the plan immediately based on what she learned from the “gurus”
  4. do little things every day that moves her closer to her definite purpose
  5. one day discover that people consider her to be  ” very successful”

Are these steps  pretty easy to do? Yes, she’s barely going to break a sweat at this pace.
Are these steps also pretty easy not to do?  Absolutely, she could watch 3 hours of  TV, go to bed early and wake up late. And she won’t even know that her life could be any different.

So, if she follows these steps will she wake up as a successful and rich network or internet marketer within a couple of weeks? Sorry, she probably  will not/

But  she’ll  keep on doing these minor little things that are just as easy not to do as they are to do, and then somewhere in month 6 sh ewill start to notice that her life has changed. Maybe she’s finally fitting into her skinny jeans, or she is getting a decent residual income check every month like clockwork, or people are falling all over themselves trying to get into her business, or buy her product, or just ask her what she knows that they don’t.

And all this because she used the slight edge principle of “small things compounded daily”, and there she is  riding up the success curve, while the other four people who got the same knowledge that she did from the “gurus” are still struggling, or have already given up, or are seeking advice from yet another guru.

Let me put this another way, you want to lose weight but you love to eat and you dislike exercise. Instead of trying to lose 20 pounds in 60 days, what if you decided to be thinner and healthier by this time next year. That’s 365 days – so if you cut just 10 calories from your diet each and every day for the next 365 days, by this time next month you’ll be eating 350 fewer calories per day. At that point you can decide to start with 10 minutes of walking and add one minute to your walk every day that you exercise, just one minute, a total no brainer.
Notice that I did not tell you to eliminate 350 or 3500 calories on day one, nor did I say do 45 minutes of exercise 5 days a week. Loving to eat and hating exercise, you’d do that for a week or two and then eat a box of oreos with ice cream and kick your treadmill to the curb. But those small daily /monthly totally not noticeable changes will find you thinner, healthier and at your goal in 365 days or less!

The same thing goes for building a retirement income, or getting to an income where you can quit your job via your business. Forget massive action if that’s not  what you are into, instead do one small thing every day that will build some momentum in your business:

Coach John Wooden says “little things make big things happen”, do you agree?  What small things are you doing each day to get to your definite purpose?

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